Daily tip: to start to listen well you have to close your mouth, open your eyes and nod your head!

Don't be a motor-mouth and not listen.

It is very important to use active listening skills.  It is not enough just to be silent.  In order for others to feel comfortable around somebody with ADD/ADHD the speaker needs to feel his or her words are actually being attended to.
There is nothing as frustrating as trying to communicate with someone that doesn't seem to be paying attention.  If you have ADD/ADHD you may be very quick on the uptake, lacking patience with long-winded people.  The pleasure of conversation is not what you are about.  The pleasure of MONOLOGUE is a bit closer to the truth.
Many times you want people to hurry up and get to the point.
Unfortunately, many people are not fluid communicators and they are slow in transmitting their thoughts and feelings into words.
For those of us who have ADD/ADHD it can be very difficult to communicate in a civilized manner with these types of detail-expounding folks.
However, keep in mind, it is important not to rush people.
People need to feel that they have the time to talk to you.
If you cannot give them the luxury of your full attention, what can you do to deserve their company?
It is important to allow others to speak their piece, and let them take their time, but it is not easy.  In fact, it is a huge challenge!
If you were wondering if people like you, you must ask yourself, "Am I a good listener?" 
Be honest now.
If you sense that people are annoyed with you, do not be surprised if the problem lies in how you listen.
Here is the thing about love, it is spelled t i m e.
That is the price you must pay in order to be a good listener!
I'm very sorry my impatient friends, but that's just the way it is, if you want to have friends that delight in your company!
How to show active listening?
For a start: you have to close your mouth, open your eyes and nod your head!
I'm listening.
Peace,
Amy Zents

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